I am sure you have met people where you thought they had a great attitude, and others where you thought they had a poor attitude. How did you make the observation if someone had a great attitude or not?
Attitude is reflected in the way people behave, based on their internal thoughts, feelings and self talk. We are in complete control of what we think, how we feel and what we say to ourselves, which means we are in total control of our behaviour and the attitude we project.
Changing your attitude, means changing your behaviour, which means changing how we feel, what we think and what we say to ourselves. I believe what we say to ourselves is very powerful because it can make the biggest difference that will directly impact on our feelings, thoughts behaviour and our attitudes.
We can change what we say to ourselves very easily. Firstly, you need to be aware of what you are saying to yourself and know that what you say is either helping you or harming you. When you tell yourself “I can do this” it is clearly helping you. “I’m a loser” is definitely hurting you.
Some things you say to yourself are not so obvious. Listen to your self talk and ask yourself, is this helping me or is this hurting me? Think about what you are saying to yourself and what will happen if you continue to do this, how will it impact on your behaviour, your attitude, your happiness and your life. Does the end result make you happy, excited, motivated and energetic? Or does it make you feel sad, deflated, depressed and tired?
There are some things we say to ourselves, which we should never say because it will lead to failure, misery and unhappiness. If you catch yourself saying something that does not serve you, it can be destructive for your self esteem, relationships, career and happiness. You need to immediately change your self-talk to positive and constructive language.
For some it may feel awkward or strange at first, but know this: your mind is listening. What you say to yourself your mind perceives as reality. By changing your internal dialogue, practicing positive affirmations and positive self talk, you can change your attitude, you can change your life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, feelings, beliefs, actions and outcomes. Attitude is the little thing that makes a big difference. It is everything and it creates remarkable results.
Change you attitude, change your destiny.
Here are some examples of the negative self talk we tell ourselves. If you find yourself using destructive language, change it around to constructive language. Remember, your mind is listening. What you tell yourself is the reality you create.
Others have tried and failed
I just need to do it differently
I’ve never done it before
Great opportunity to learn something new!
Life is so unfair
I control my life, I create my destiny
I give up
I am strong
It's too hard
I will try to make it work
I am so embarrassed I could die
I am courageous, I will get through this
Why do bad things always happen to me?
I will overcome challenges positively
I just don’t care anymore
I will help others and wont expect anything back
I feel so unhappy
I am grateful for the things I have
Nobody loves me
I am worthy
I don’t know how to do it
There’s always a way, I will find a way to do it
I hate my (cellulite, hair, teeth etc)
I am beautiful, I am unique
I don’t have enough money
I am prosperous
What will they think of me?
People love me for who I am
I wish I knew how to find happiness
When I wake up in the morning, I choose to be happy, it’s my choice
I hope I don’t get sick
I am healthy
I don’t have the education
I am intelligent, I am smart, I can do this
I don’t know if I can do it
I am good enough, I will give it my best shot
I’m so tired
Today will be a great day
What if I’m wrong?
What if I’m right?
I don’t have enough experience
I have the will to work hard and learn
I’m a nobody
I am unique and individual
I just don’t know what to do anymore
The answers are within me, I just need to listen to my heart
I have made so many mistakes
At least I have tried. I have learned how to not to do it, I’ll know better next time
My job is so boring
It’s up to me to make it more exciting & enjoyable, so what can I do that will make me happy?
This is not my job
It needs to be done, people are depending on me, I will do it
I feel cheated and disappointed
I am determined to do it better next time
What other things have you been saying to yourself that do not serve you? Write them down and work out what you should be saying to yourself that will help you achieve more. More happiness, more confidence, more love, more fun, a better life.
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